Zizzie Happenings

Chapter 12 ~ By Divine Appointment But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the mead of Christ is God ~ I Corinthians 11:3 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body ~ Ephesians 5:23 Don't worry about the quality of his leadership, for he is under the oversight of Jesus Christ. He must answer to God for how he leads his "troops." You must answer to God for how you obey the one he placed over you. It takes faith in God to trust him when all you seem to see is one carnal man leading you. Your husband is your knight in God's protective armor. Even if his armor appears a bit rusty and dull, it is still the armor of God, your safe covering in everything. Time to Consider Traits of a Good Help Meet: She fears God. She believes God's Word as it is written. She considers her position as a help meet a privileged command. Write ...

Chapter 11 ~ The Nature of Man and Woman It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him ~ Genesis 2:18 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God ~ I Corinthians 11:3 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man ~ I Corinthians 11:9 Time to Consider God placed man in the position of HEAD of the family, not because he is wiser or more capable, but because it is part of God's eternal design. When people think of your family, do they see your husband as the principal player, or do they think of you as the main character? Thy desire shall be to thy husband and shall rule over thee ~ Genesis 3:16 Is your desire toward your husband? You cannot change 100% of the marriage, but you can change 50% of it, and that may improve your marriage by 200%

Chapter 10 ~ Reactions Define You A wise woman does not dream of what "could have been." She does not see herself as "God's gift to men;" therefore, she is joyful and content in her present circumstances. Reactions are not premeditated actions springing from our best motives, carefully thought out, planned, and weighed. They are emotional responses, breaking loose like wild horses when we feel hurt, cheated, used, or misunderstood. Your reactions break you loose from your social inhibitions and manifest who you really are inside and what you really believe at your core level. Researchers have determined that the average person thinks over 40,000 thoughts each day. The heart is filled with thoughts, and it is out of that reservoir of thoughts that the mouth speaks words of praise or bitterness. A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth man out of the e...

Chapter 9 ~ Finding Your Life in His From the beginning, God meant for us to be a comfort, a blessing, a reward, a friend, and encouragement, and a right-hand wo-man. God didn't create Adam and Eve at the same time and tell them to work out some compromise on how they would each achieve their personal goals in a cooperative endeavor. He created Adam, gave him an occupation, appointed him as ruler of the planet, endowed him with a spiritual outlook, gave him commands, and specified his occupational duties. Adam commenced hi rule of the planet before God created Eve to help him in his life's goals . Adam didn't need to get Eve's consent. God gave her to Adam to be HIS helper, not his partner. She was designed to serve , not to be served, to assist , not to veto his decisions. Find your life in his. God made us women to be help meets , and it is in our physical nature to be so. It is our spiritual calling and God's perfect will for us . It is the role in which ...

Chapter 8 ~ Wisdom to Understand Your Man A wise woman learns to adapt to her husband. Three kinds of Men: Mr. Command Man, Mr. Visionary, Mr. Steady God gives imperfect women to imperfect men so they can be heirs together of the grace of life and become something more together than either one of them would ever be alone. The way you think determines how you will feel, and how you feel influences the way you will act. Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands: that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. I Peter 3:1-2 Time to Consider What type of man is your husband? Keep in mind that most men are a little of all three types, but tend to be stronger in one. Ask God to give you wisdom to see where you need to change to be the perfect help meet for your divinely designed man.

Chapter 7 ~ Wisdom, While There is Yet Hope A wise woman is always learning. She is open to change. She is ready to hear. She pursues knowledge. When God gave Eve to Adam, he was giving him a helper, not a conscience. Divorce is never planned, but is almost always preceded by certain avoidable reactive behavior and events. Don't let it happen to you. Make up your mind to be a woman of God, regardless of what your husband bought or how dumb he seemed to be in the way he spent money. He practices his faults, and you practice your bitterness. You are both practicing divorce. Have you forgotten why you were created? Come to Jesus just as you are and say to Him: From this day forth I want to be the help meet you created me to be . He is waiting to forgive and love you. God's way works! James 4:17 ~ Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin. Luke 6:49 ~ But he that heareth, and doeth not, is like a man that without a foundation built an house up...

Chapter 5 ~ The Gift of Wisdom Ask God for wisdom to become the very best help meet.You serve Christ by serving your husband, whether your husband deserves it or not. Women who have difficulties in their marriage usually follow their feelings and just react. You are not thinking from God's perspective. James 1:5 ~ If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him" It is a gift, but it is not given unless you ask for it. You need the precious gift of wisdom to be able to hold your tongue and be thankful when your flesh would strike back in anger. You need wisdom to see how feeling sorry for yourself is far from the heart of God. The gift of wisdom will enable you to serve and honor your husband because you are serving and honoring God. The more you seek to obey God; and the more you know him, the more you will care about the things He values. Time to Consider To commit your way unto the Lord is to say...

Chapter 2 ~ A Merry Heart Proverbs 17:22 A Merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones A merry heart is the foundation of health and happiness. And the day you have a merry heart will be the first day of rebuilding your marriage into the heavenly gift it was meant to be. Love is like a flower: you can't expect it to grow without sunshine. Has your husband seen your sunshine lately? Proverbs 15:13 A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance... Do you have an attitude of contentment? Remind him that you miss him when he is at work... remind him that you love him no matter what... remind him that you appreciate him. Women spend billions of dollars every year to make themselves more attractive, but the most effective beauty aid is free - a joyful smile No man has ever crawled out from under his wife's criticism to be a better man - no matter how justified her condemnation Never demand that a man love you and cherish you because he ought to. Earn ...

Chapter 4 ~ Thanksgiving Produces Joy Live with thanksgiving, forgiveness, and joy, and enjoy all your moments as if they were your last. You have control over whether or not you and your husband will be "heirs together of the grace of life" (I Peter 3:7), or partners together in the tension and stress of life. Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little. Ans he said unto her, Thy sins are forgiven...Thy faith has saved thee; go in peace ~ Luke 7:47-48, 50 The message to you is simple. From this day forth, starting right now-today-be the woman who honors, obeys, and loves Jesus, by honoring your husband. Begin to thank God for his grace towards you. Thank him for every good thing that he has brought into your life. Thank him, thank him and thank him again. Joy is the result of a thankful heart. AS thankful heart is the result of a person who decides to give thanks. Time to Consi...

Chapter 6 ~ The Beginning of Wisdom Our actions and reactions do indeed reap painful results in this present life as well as in eternity. We live under a law of sowing and reaping that is as certain and unrelenting as disease and death. Proverbs 22:8 ~ He that soweth iniquity shall reap vanity: and the rod of his anger shall fail Psalm 111:10, Proverbs 1:7, Proverbs 9:10 ~ All say The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom/knowledge Be your husband's helper; not his conscience. Time to Consider Make a new habit ~ When you feel yourself beginning to have a critical spirit, stop, take a deep breath, silently ask for wisdom, then thing of something that is on your thankful list. This is remolding a habit, and, in time, practice makes it perfect.

Chapter 3 ~ A Thankful Spirit A wise woman sets a joyful mood in her home. Through laughter, music, and happy times, she creates a positive attitude in her children. She knows that a lighthearted home relieves her husband of stress. Proverbs 15:15 ~ All the days of the afflicted are evil; but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast. Discontentment is not a product of circumstances, it is the state of the soul. Philippians 4:11 ~ For I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content Hebrews 13:5 ~ and be content with such things as ye have I Timothy 6:6-8 ~ Bit godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. And having food and reiment let us be therewith content. Contentment Thankful people have a view of life that begins somewhere seep in their souls, and outside circumstances just can't mar their joy. To them, life is a wonderful, continuous dream come true. Joy begins with t...

As I read through the Created to be His Help Meet book by Debi Pearl I am going to blog some notes so I can refer back to them. Intro Regardless of what kind of person you have been in the past with instructions from God's Word, you can become a heavenly-gift bride. You can still be your man's dream come true, and in the process your dreams will come true also. You do have a choice in how your life plays out. Each day is a decision, each hour a challenge, and each response starts you toward either the quicksands of divorce or the solid ground of being blessed "heirs together of the grace of life. If you will turn to God, asking him to open your eyes to his instruction for wives, he will open his Word to you. Chapter 1 A wise woman doesn't take anything for granted. She is thankful to be loved and seeks to make herself more lovely. I had spent years scratching my head and wondering why he would not take a position of leadership in the home. I did not realize that I con...