Created to be His Help Meet ~ 10

Chapter 10 ~ Reactions Define You

• A wise woman does not dream of what "could have been." She does not see herself as "God's gift to men;" therefore, she is joyful and content in her present circumstances.
• Reactions are not premeditated actions springing from our best motives, carefully thought out, planned, and weighed. They are emotional responses, breaking loose like wild horses when we feel hurt, cheated, used, or misunderstood.
• Your reactions break you loose from your social inhibitions and manifest who you really are inside and what you really believe at your core level.
• Researchers have determined that the average person thinks over 40,000 thoughts each day. The heart is filled with thoughts, and it is out of that reservoir of thoughts that the mouth speaks words of praise or bitterness.
• A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth man out of the evil the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh. Luke 6:45
• For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he... Proverbs 23:7
• Bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ. II Corinthians 10:5
• For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts..." Matthew 15:19
• Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus. Philippians2:5
• And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. Romans 12:2
• You are what you think, and God tells you how to think: Think the truth. This is not the power of positive thinking; this is the power of the truth as God defines it. You are created to be your husband's helper, not his conscience, not his vocation director, and certainly not his critic.
• When you develop an adversarial relationship with your husband, you do so on the premise that you are right and he is wrong. You are also assuming that you have the duty to resist, confront, and challenge him. In thinking he is wrong and you are right, you declare yourself wiser than he, more spiritual, more discerning, more sacrificial, etc. All this adds up to the obvious conclusion that you have assumed the role of leadership, teacher, and judge. This is sinful and odious, and it displeases God greatly. No woman will ever have peace and joy until her mind is filled with goodwill toward her husband, and she is committed to becoming a good help meet for him.
• If you can say "Not my will, but thine be done," then you can know that your prayer is based on the fear of God. It is the beginning of wisdom. Ask God to give you the beginning of wisdom by asking him to teach you to fear him.

Time to Consider

• Is much of your life a reaction to real or perceived wrongs?
• Are you truly as wise as you think?
• Learn to understand and appreciate her man for who he is.
• Learn to be flexible.